Finding THE ONE - The Search For The Right Therapist
At this point, you have probably been searching high and low for a therapist that will just feel right. This part of the search feels more like a succession of terrible blind dates and you worry that you'll never find THE ONE. We have our list of requirements for a good therapist - informative but we don't want a lecture, empathetic but we don't want them crying on our shoulder by the end of the session, challenging but we don't want to leave feeling raked over the coals, and on and on. So how do you choose? Well, my best advice is to find a therapist who has experience with what you are dealing with. Not a therapist with a list of issues they treat that's a mile long. A counselor who specializes in a few.
My second criteria is that we both feel like we click. Technique and models are important, however without that piece of the relationship we will struggle to work together. We can tell you're still wondering about techniques and models. Yes, they are important. Certain issues are best treated within a range of protocols. However...we are also individuals. Your unique personality, learning style and temperament is important too. If you are more of a worksheet kinda person, the CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) might be a good fit for you. If you have experienced trauma but are truly reluctant to voice it, EMDR or experiential therapies such as Art Therapy, Play Therapy or Equine Assisted Psychotherapy might be a fit. If you notice that you become dis-regulated and either zone out or get activated quickly, then mindfulness and working with horses through Natural Lifemanship skills might work for you. Sometimes parents are working so hard to help their children that they seek therapy for them. They see their child floundering, not using their gifts, keeping to the middle of the road instead of soaring. It may seem counter-intuitive, but we would typically work with the whole family, not just our stuck kiddo. When children and teens see that their adults have to "do work" too, it opens them up to growth and allowing that support in.